There’s no better time than now to be happy.
“Learn to enjoy every minute of your life. Be happy now. Don’t wait for something outside of yourself to make you happy in the future. Think how really precious is the time you have to spend, whether it’s at work or with your family. Every minute should be enjoyed and savoured.”
Towards the end of the year many people’s thoughts turn to making the changes in their life style that they hope will enable them to achieve more or indeed ‘be’ more. For most, though, such well intentioned dreaming rarely goes beyond the thought stage!
Some do, however, and they not only get themselves to the starting gate but go some way beyond it, before life gets in the way, or they lose interest, or the going gets too tough. I guess you know how it is..
Yet others will be focussed and organised and actually set themselves goals, with check-in points along the way to monitor their progress. They will likely be more successful than their less committed brothers and sisters.
Whatever group you are in, though -and probably we’ve all been in them all from time to time – whilst there’s nothing wrong in thinking about the different possibilities your future holds, there exists also the danger that as you are thinking about what could be you fail to appreciate what you already have, who you already are.
Of course, this is not true for everyone. But the possibility exists that in working towards a ‘better’ future which is not guaranteed we neglect to deliberately find something to be thankful in the present.
That’s why I think there is value in us all reflecting on the following words written by the Reverend Crystal Boyd. She wrote them in an email to some friends in 1997, when she was going through a horrible time in her own life. Since then it’s been read by millions throughout the world, though not always credited to her.
Happiness is a Journey
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another.
Then we’re frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are.
After that, we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We’ll certainly be happy when they’re out of that stage.
We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire.
The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.
One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said,
“For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.”
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness.
Happiness is the way.
So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time with…and remember that time waits for no one.
So, stop waiting until you finish school,
until you go back to school,
until you lose ten pounds,
until you gain ten pounds,
until you have kids,
until your kids leave the house,
until you start work,
until you retire,
until you get married,
until you get divorced,
until Friday night,
until Sunday morning,
until you get a new car or home,
until your car or home is paid off,
until you’re off welfare,
until the first or fifteenth,
until your song comes on,
until you’ve had a drink,
until you’ve sobered up,
until you die,
until you’re born again ………
to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
There’s certainly a lot of down-to-earth, common sense in her words, isn’t there? And food for thought, too.
Find out more about Reverend Crystal Boyd on her website: https://happinessisajourney.com
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